I generate new me every once in awhile

I was torn between Arum in Jakarta and Arum in Bogor... Arum in Bogor is so easy not to have a handshake with non mahrom... But when I go back to Jakarta people not automatically avoid handshake with me. And then come Covid-19 I was torn between Arum before pandemic and after pandemic... Arum during pandemic never have a handshake with anyone whether female or male. And the old part of me feels it's rude to not have handshake with elders, but the new me feels I break rules if I have a handshake with anyone.