But as for me, personally I never, I mean I won't lie I would accept it [LIKE IT'S SUPER ROMANTIC], but I really never expect my mahr to be Qur'an memorization... Because it's a symbol right? That you have skill to teach to build a family, you can guide me spiritually religiously, like, what's added value you'll add to my life? Right?
And I was like if he forgot his Qur'an memorization then what? We need to be separated? If he forgot to guide me spiritually also I might or may ask to get a divorce?
It's like, just come as you are...
I don't expect, but I won't reject
That's why I accept it as proposal but to be really honest I'm just as easy as taking care a cat, horse, cow, etc you can actually take care of me... But it's the commitment you know I need to keep reminding you, you intend to gave me mahr this, this, this 📖🛐🐐 remember?
If I am the one who run this business I won't survive... You need to keep show up and tell me what you remember
And that's kinda scary right if my husband have Alzheimer and na'udzubillahimindzalik he forgot all his Qur'an? I can or might seperate from him, but let's pray whoever it is whose gonna be my man, never forget. Amen.
As the Islamic sayings the most honorable women are those who ask the least mahr... If you have nothing it's okay even if you don't have Qur'an memorization mutqin yet it's okay... Even a hafidzah not necessarily need to have a hafidz husband, moreover me? Marriage is ibadah and I'm really just looking for someone that can accept me, and that I can respect out of his taqwa
But please let's pray whoever my future husband would never forget his Qur'an 🤲 Me too, may Allah never erase Qur'an from my heart, amen thank you 🙏🙏🙏
But it's ofc would be one of my ta'aruf questions, whatever your parenting type, financial condition, wife expectation, etc not matter to me your Qur'an matter... So, like you know I could place myself more ready the the waves are strong I should like prepare just in case
Thanks for having fun with me
Can't wait to see you later, in a better version
Or may be someone new, what's the fun life with no surprise? If you think you should work on your wealth and your deen yeah may be we should even after getting married you might be thinking I have no time for marriage and just focus on my deen, but to be really honest it's like you don't have to be perfect on your deen first then you can marry me, but at least I have minimum requirements though... As husband... Moreover as a Dad... If there's no one fit that's awful dang I'd teach you or pay someone to teach you but no I won't just let anybody be my children's Father
I was told "you'd be a Grandma!"
I mean may be he tried to deliver nobody's gonna fit then
Till you old, and lonely
But the truth is Allah is enough for me
I'll do my part
I keep welcoming but they're just keep stray apart
It's beyond my control I do want to get married but I really can't force someone to be in my life
Sometimes they come, sometimes we come, in these days it's really not a big deal who initiate first
But I was like the verses "marry her..." and/or "...marry them..." I don't have to feel burdened and just live honestly... In the meantime I'll just keep looking for a husband/wife for somebody else 😅 bcs I don't think they suit me, but they don't fit for my friends too 😌 but at least we filtered a lot already
There will be someone, somewhere, some other time... I'm sure God never run out of provisions for me
TLDR: Please read Qur'an and it's meaning
If you happen to memorize it, it's a plus
But I don't expect anything from anyone, I don't expect someone to give me mahr Qur'an memorization because that's a big responsibility, you need to keep memorize it for a lifetime or our marriage can be shaky
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